HOME AND FAMILY

In my experience of both working with and being friends with mothers of young children, I find that most of them believe that their own wants and needs should come second to the wants and needs of their children.

Well, let me share with you that: nothing could be further from the truth! It breaks my heart to see mothers feeling overwhelmed and unfulfilled in their role due to them not paying enough attention to themselves and their own wants and needs. And the sad part about this is: both the mother and their children can get what they want and need and both feel totally fulfilled! If you would like to avoid falling into this same pattern of being overwhelmed and unfulfilled (and I KNOW you do), here are 3 simple tips to help you avoid this challenge and to help you get what you need so that you can be even better in your role as a mom.

Simple Tip #1 is to acknowledge your wants and needs. What I mean by this is to notice what they are and accept that it is normal for you to have wants and needs that don't necessarily have anything to do with being a mother to your children. Begin by making a list of all of the things that you want and need that will make you more fulfilled in your role as a mother. Don't be afraid to list whatever it is that you want. Acknowledging what you want and need is the first step!

Simple Tip #2 is to get the additional support that you need in order to take the time that is necessary for you to do whatever it is that will help you feel more fulfilled. Now you may be wondering where you can get the support that you need so here are some ideas. Begin by sharing your ideas on this topic with your husband or partner and enlist his additional support of taking care of the children for some of the time while you focus on you. Or perhaps other family members or friends could help you out. Another option would be a babysitting network of other mothers or a "moms' time out" network at a local church. You will find that there are lots of support options available once you begin looking for them.

Simple Tip #3 is to rid yourself of any guilt that you might feel for focusing this time on you and having your own wants and needs met! Think about what it will mean for your children to have a mother who is more relaxed, more fulfilled and therefore happier. Can you see how this will result in you having more patience for them, being able to focus more of your attention on them when you do spend time with them and setting the example of what it means to take care of ones self?
No matter how much enjoyment and fulfillment you get in your role as a mother, you still deserve to have your own wants and needs met. You are missing a crucial part of the equation of being a great mother if you are not taking the time to focus on YOU! The good news is that you can begin by following these 3 Simple Tips outlined above to get your own wants and needs met so that you can be even better in your role as a mother.

No commentaires

Mom... When I decided to write about you my pen is stopped on the pulse, and my hands are frozen, not for nothing but because my mind and my heart have not been able to express even a word about your soul pure. I begged for my memory so much to help and provide me with words which express what lies in me, but they were powerless compared with the greatness of your soul. O compassionate; My heart is filled with tons of love and gratitude, and of your standing as bells of your situations and education are still ringing in my ears. You educated me and I thanked you by crying, you taught me how to go my first step and I thanked you by escaping, you gave me delicious food and I thanked you by throwing you with dishes, you give me a pen and I drew on the walls. All these situations were in the last periods of childhood, and what remains is your compassion, you are the only person who bore my affliction.

Mother's Day is intended for honoring your immaculate inquiry, reminding of what you created, but this day is much less than what you gave us; what you gave humanity; what you gave life. Specifying one day to honor your achievements, to say what the agony you suffered to grow up generations who are building nations, is not enough for your pure position. You are the peace of the universe, Mom.

Whenever we tried to say the achievements of this great human, we can not give her what she actually deserves, even we can not give her simple parts of her right, you are the great person who rocked the cradle with your right and are able to shake the world with your left. She studied with us, overpassed the difficulties of life with us and graduated from schools and universities with us. She is happy for our successes and she blesses our days, thanks to all of this.

On the other hand, How we have provided for Motherhood, what we have done for her since childhood and what we did after her old age, we got married and neglect her because of our work. We could not coordinate our days with her, although we know that she has dedicated all her life to us. We should acknowledge that all what we have and all what we achieve is thanks to her, even the blood that is flowing in our veins is from her spirit. We should return to our senses, cherish the role of our mothers, respect them, have pity on them as they do with us and smile to them as they instilled love in our souls. In the end the mother is priceless and we should pray for God to protect her.

No commentaires

In honor of Father's Day on June 15, 2014, my hat is off to all fathers who have chosen to actively participate in the lives of their children. One of the most endearing moments I see, when in public, is fathers that are interacting with their children. It always seems, to me, that the child or children are always happy and engaged when with their fathers. My comment is not at all to say that children are not happy with their mothers, but to acknowledge that when fathers are involved in their children lives, children have the best of both worlds. Firsthand, I am blessed that I have two fathers that have done a tremendous job of assisting me raising our two boys; kudos to them both.

It is amazing that we must glorify fathers. Reason, so many fathers are not actively involved in their children lives. Millions of fathers are absent parents and evade their responsibilities financially, emotionally, physically and spiritually. Therefore, fathers who step up to their responsibilities are making a profound difference in our children lives. More and more fathers are custodial parents and are the primary residential parents of their children. It is reported that over 15% of fathers are custodial parents in the United States. It is also reported that more and more fathers are staying home to take care of their children while the other spouse works. Actually, there are over one million fathers that have selected this path. I applaud men who embrace parenting and acknowledge that parenting is one of the hardest responsibilities we encounter throughout our lives. However, our society has not 100% accepted fathers raising their children, but thinks that mothers should be the primary parent. This thought process has not stopped fathers from seek custody and breaking forging the footprint for more fathers to follow suit. While not everyone has embraced and supported this concept, fathers are well on our way to breaking the barriers they once endured.

Dennis has had custody of his now 13 year old son for ten years. Even though Dennis works full-time and his ex-wife lives out of state, being the primary parent has been one of the most fulfilling and rewarding experiences he has had. "As the residential parent, I never realized what a single mother, for instance, goes through on a daily base. From the time we wake up until it's time for bed, I'm constantly thinking about my role and responsibility as a parent." When asked why he chose to be a single dad, Dennis said that he wanted to be a constant positive influence in his son's life. It was amazing speaking with Dennis and to see the love, adoration and joy he exuded when speaking about his son and being a single parent.

Dennis is just an example of the many fathers who play the most important role in our children lives. The trend is fastly growing when men are becoming the primary parent. No longer are the courtrooms frowning down on the male gender as parents; but considering the best interest of our most precious investments, our children.

On Father's Day, I salute all fathers for making a difference.

No commentaires

Most good event planners are a bit on the anal side. That is because "the devil" really is in the details.

And if the details are not well managed, it is very easy for all kinds of problems to occur.

A good example occurred just this week.

I received a call from a client this past Tuesday. She wanted to talk about the party she is scheduled to have for this coming Saturday.

She had done all of the right things including planning and booking her vendors well in advance. In fact, she had booked our services back in February.

The reason for the call? She received a panicked call from her catering hall.

It turns out that they double-booked the time slot for her event.

This catering hall is run by a husband-wife team. The wife generally handles reservations. But her husband had taken down a reservation for another event, a wedding reception. He didn't see that the time slot was already reserved for my client's event.

The wife discovered the oversight while reviewing arrangements for the weekend.

The upshot? My client, who didn't have the heart to displace a wedding celebration, had to reschedule her event on short notice.

Needless to say, the oversight caused my client a great deal of inconvenience. For starters, she is expecting out-of-town guests who will have to change their arrangements.

The hall is trying to compensate by giving my client its use for free.

Nonetheless, damage was done.

In this case, there was little the client could have done to prevent this problem. It was caused by conditions out of her knowledge and control.

The reality is that people are human and screw-ups happen to the best of us.

But you can minimize problems arising from items under your control.

The key is organization.

If you are planning an event, keep a timeline and keep records. The timeline will give you a way to impose order on the endless details by letting you quickly see what has to take place and when.

Records will give you concrete reference so you don't have to rely on memory. Contracts, receipts, papers, and your notes of phone conversations should be kept in a central place such as a folder.

A diary system based on your timeline will trigger necessary reviews and action on your part.

For example, if you book a vendor's services and they promise to send you a contract, ask when you can expect to receive it. Then, note the date in your diary. Check it off when you receive the paperwork.

Failure to receive the contract or any other promised paperwork should precipitate follow up on your part.

Such failures can be caused by any number of things. Papers get lost in the mail, and occasionally vendors don't properly record an order.

It is rare, but it happens.

Likewise, many providers of party services require the payment of a deposit to secure your order.

Many clients shop around, change plans, or fail to commit for any number of reasons. Depending on the specific product or service, some vendors receive orders from a small percentage of their inquiries.

So a vendor may not follow up if you do not send in the deposit. And you may find yourself scrambling to obtain that service under a short deadline. This is more likely during peak periods when the vendor's resources are stretched.

A diary system will keep you on track and organized.

Experiences like my client's are rare. But mistakes do happen.

By being organized and on top of your diary system, you'll prevent a lot of problems. And you can be confident that you have the details of your event under control.

No commentaires

Today's children are immersed in technology that parents could only have dreamed of at their age. This will only accelerate as advancements in computer entertainment leap frog into more complex and fast paced gaming experiences.

How can this fact be used by fathers to help their children? Step up and be the parent. A father should make it clear that in order to have the privilege of playing video games or using the computer, chores and homework must be completed AND checked. Too often, or in many cases, most often, a child will come home from school, go straight to the computer and begin playing immediately.

By enforcing a chore/homework rule (along with a time limit for electronic entertainment), a father can not only ensure the chores get done and homework completed (both of which help children when they are out on their own), but also instills a sense of responsibility. Authority is also established, which is critical to maintain as a parent. Too many parents hand their authority over to their children and then complain at how smart-mouthed and disrespectful they are. Children need and want (whether they admit it or not) boundaries that are enforced by their parents. They understand on a basic level that these boundaries are expressions of love. If you didn't care as a father, you wouldn't bother.

Another related issue is the distracted parent. A father who is too busy to discipline or even set boundaries sends a message that he simply does not care. This is very likely not to be the case, but it is what is projected nonetheless.

Staying with the electronic theme, a couple times a week, make it a point to rally the family around the childrens' favorite games and spend an hour playing THEIR games. My children like multiplayer games and we networked out household computers so that we all can play. Even if you don't have multiple computers, children love it when they can show you their accomplishments. Take an interest in their achievements and make sure you ask questions. This does not involve loads of time, just an hour here and there.

Lastly, fathers and discipline go together. Discipline does not always mean corporal punishment. The father who steps in and metes out discipline in a constructive manner is more likely to have a household that is less chaotic and less disrespectful. In fact, all disrespect should be dealt with. If not, your authority as a parent is chipped away at every time you let it slide. One of the most effective tools that will hit home with your child is to take away the electronic entertainment. Remember, these items are not rights they are privileges.

A father who steps up and gets involved with have a positive impact on his children as they grow up and move out.

No commentaires

If you are planning to go for IVF treatment for having your biological child we will want to share few things with you. First of all the process of In vitro fertilization is a very complicated one and you being the candidate need to be very patient and calm while undergoing the treatment process. If you make you feel stressed then that will not help you get the desired outcome. Secondly, the success rate of an IVF cycle cannot be guaranteed by anyone, not even by the biggest IVF experts of the industry. Be prepared to face whatever the outcome is.

There are some clear-cut factors which you need to take care of choosing the Right IVF Doctors for Treatment:

• This process needs the effort of different types of specialists. So while selecting the IVF center you need to check the clinic is having a specialist in gynecology, embryology, endocrinology, urology, surgery and even for psychology.

• For quality IVF treatment one needs to get a certain examination done by a geneticist. Doctor will be responsible to check genetic disorders if any in the prospective patient. So the presence of this specialist is also a must in the clinic.

• There will always be the need of a reproductive surgeon as all IVF cases are not same. Some of the candidates may need some surgical modification of conditions which leads to the creation of obstruction for the fallopian tubes, endometriosis lining and some disorders of the urinary tract. It is not always the women who are having the problem of infertility as it may arise because of problems in a male partner too. An urologist can check the reason for the male urinary tract disorder and decide the treatment which can resolve the problem.

• Coming to the importance of the embryologist in IVF treatment. This specialist is responsible for matching the collected eggs and sperm of the partners under strict laboratory condition to develop a healthy embryo. If the number of the healthy embryo is more than 2 in case of a candidate then 2 will be used in the first cycle and rest will be frizzed carefully so that it can be used for the second cycle if needed.

• Each of the specialists who will be the part of the treatment needs to be MD in their field and need to have required amount of experience in the industry

• The clinic needs to have good reputation and success rate for In vitro fertilization cases. We understand that 100% cannot be successful but minimum 85% cases need to be successful to enlist the agency in the list of notable IVF centers.

You can decide your own set of parameters for deciding the right clinic for you. But we will insist that you include the above points in your search. It is an expensive medical process and so you need to plan for the fund. There may be variation in the cost when compared to the patients of the same clinic. The reason can be some extra medications or extra service required by the patient.

No commentaires

Many women experience musculoskeletal problems during their pregnancy. It is common for them to have lower back pain, discomfort in the pelvic girdle and/or neck and upper back pain. This occurs as pregnancy progresses due to the increasing weight and size of the baby internally and subsequent postural changes the expectant mother undergoes. This article will discuss musculoskeletal conditions that occur during pregnancy and a potential palliative care. A specific case study by the author will also be presented as an example that the reader may find useful and helpful.

A recent research study published in BMJ Open, August 2017 noted that musculoskeletal pain is a common cause of sick leave during pregnancy. An electronic survey of 6686 new mothers from 12 European countries revealed that 8% took sick leave during their pregnancy because of pain in their neck, back or pelvic girdle. These findings reveal the need for musculoskeletal care during pregnancy to help reduce pain and sick leave.

When I first started in chiropractic practice 33 years ago I treated a patient named Donna. Donna had a desk job and found monthly chiropractic adjustments kept her free from neck and lower back pain. She became pregnant with her second child and we continued to give her regular treatments. After having the baby I asked her how the delivery went. She said: "I wish I had known about chiropractic adjustments when I had my first child." She related that her second pregnancy had been much easier and the delivery was more comfortable and took less time than her first child. She noted during her first pregnancy she had not had chiropractic care and, while there were no complications, it hadn't been easy.

Over the years I've seen many similar results. Pregnant women who receive chiropractic care have more comfortable pregnancies and easier, faster delivery times. Chiropractic research verifies these facts.

There are chiropractic postgraduate classes focused on treating pregnant women utilizing the Webster Technique. Training during the study of the Webster Technique emphasizes the anatomical study of the bones, joints, muscles and nerves of the body. Additionally, there is education regarding the physiology of pregnancy and the effects on women and the developing fetus. The Webster Technique also teaches gentle manipulative procedures that chiropractors use to keep the pelvis and lower spine of pregnant women in good alignment. This method is an alternative safe, gentle, drug-free way of assisting women during pregnancy

No commentaires

HOME AND FAMILY

Pages

Categories

recent posts