As I pick up my 7 week old baby girl from her pram (that her daddy has been pushing back and forth to try and get her to sleep while I put our toddler to bed who runs away from having his teeth cleaned and keeps playing on his little keyboard!), instead of getting stressed with the situation, I just smile and think what's there to be stressed about?!

In the end we swap so daddy puts Tommy to bed and I go and settle Toriana with a cuddle and breastfeed, to which she falls asleep! Who wants a carry cot/pram when you can have mummy and boob!!

I feel so much more relaxed this time around. Have you found that too if you have a second child?

With Tommy, he wouldn't ever nap in his cot, he would only sleep on me after a feed, in the car or in the buggy and he'd wake up lots in the night so we wouldn't get much sleep. Most other mums I'd speak to could put their baby down for a nap and get the washing up done, have a shower etc, but I was either attached to the sofa or doing laps of the streets (even in the rain) to get him to sleep! If he only had 30 mins, I'd stress about him not having enough sleep!

So this time I'm just so much more relaxed and just don't worry! Fortunately sometimes Toriana does nap in her carry cot in the day (after falling asleep on the breast which I found out with Tommy was a bad habit! Whoops too late!) However unlike with Tommy, if she doesn't stay asleep, now I think oh well, I'll just pick her up and give her cuddles and maybe another feed! They do say the boob is for comfort as well as feeding!

I make sure I involve Tommy too by chatting to him or try to play trains with him one handed, as his new phrase is "you want to play my trains with me mummy?"

I'm so lucky to be in this situation where I not only have a child, but two, plus the fact that we have one of each, so I have no reason to ever complain about silly things such as 'when am I going to get the washing up done?!'

So even though I used to stress about silly things because I needed to be with Tommy so that he'd sleep, I feel so glad now that I didn't listen to the people who'd say 'put him down' or 'just let him cry it out'. I'll know forever that I gave my baby the affection and closeness he needed. So if you're in this situation, just follow your heart and let your your child lead you.

So with Toriana, I just go with the flow and follow her lead. If she does nap in her carry cot for a bit, great and I then can give Tommy my full attention and play with him. If not then I just hold/feed her. And that's what I'm doing right now!! So this article writing thing that I'm doing right now, can be done with small children! I don't have set hours because life is all over the place so I just fit bits in as and when such as now when Tommy is asleep in bed and Toriana is asleep on me!